Hello, lovelies! It’s Veni here.
You’ve found the person, you’ve (hopefully) found the Veni Infantino dress of your dreams—the one with that perfect bit of drama and sophisticated flair—and now comes the part that makes even my most confident brides a little trembly: the vows.
Writing your own vows is like designing a bespoke gown. It needs structure, it needs high-quality "fabric" (your memories), and it absolutely needs a signature touch that is uniquely you.
If you’re staring at a blank page, don’t panic! Grab a notebook, channel your inner queen, and let’s get those feelings into words.
1. Start with the "Fabric" (The Brainstorm)
Before we talk about silhouettes, we talk about materials. Think about your partner.
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What was the exact moment you realized they were "The One"?
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What is the most annoying thing they do that you secretly find adorable?
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How do they make you feel when you’re wearing your favourite pyjamas versus when you’re stepped out in a floor-length, Veni Infantino masterpiece like Grazia wedding dress?
Pro Tip: Don’t try to be Shakespeare. If you’re funny, be funny. If you’re sentimental, bring the tissues. Authenticity is the best accessory.
2. Establish the Silhouette (The Structure)
Every great gown needs a shape. A good set of vows usually follows a classic pattern:
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The Opening: Acknowledge who they are to you (your best friend, your rock, your favorite person to argue about dinner with).
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The Story: A quick anecdote that captures your relationship.
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The Promises: This is the "couture" part. Don't just say "I promise to love you." Say "I promise to always let you have the last bite" or "I promise to support your wildest dreams."
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The Closing: A final, powerful statement of forever.
3. Edit Like a Designer
In my studio, we know that sometimes less is more. You don’t need a ten-minute monologue. Aim for about 60 to 90 seconds. You want to leave them breathless, not checking their watches!
Read your vows out loud. If you stumble over a sentence, cut it. If it doesn't sound like you, change it.
4. Style It with Confidence
On the big day, you’ll be standing there, looking absolutely radiant. Whether you’ve chosen one of my classic Bridal designs with stunning lace detailing or a bold, modern silhouette, your vows are the finishing touch.
Veni’s Golden Rule: Carry a beautiful linen handkerchief. Whether it’s for your eyes or your partner’s, a bit of lace is always practical and chic.
A little "cheat sheet" never hurt anyone. Just like choosing between a classic A-line or a dramatic mermaid fit, your vows should match the "vibe" of your day.
Here are a few templates and pointers to get those creative juices flowing!
Veni's Tip: if you are worried about remember everything, try have a wedding dress with pockets to hide your note. Have a look at
Vow Styles: Pick Your Silhouette
| Style | The Vibe | Example Snippet |
| The Romantic | Soft, timeless, and deeply sentimental. | "Just as every bead on my Veni Infantino gown was placed with care, I promise to nurture every detail of our life together..." |
| The Modern & Witty | Fun, light-hearted, and full of personality. | "I promise to love you even when you leave your socks on the floor, and I promise to always be the person who makes you laugh until you cry." |
| The Short & Sweet | Minimalist, impactful, and elegant. | "You are my home, my adventure, and my greatest love. Today, I give you my forever." |
Veni’s Top Writing Pointers
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The "Three Promises" Rule: To keep things structured, choose one serious promise (e.g., "I promise to stand by you through every challenge"), one personal promise (e.g., "I promise to always keep the fridge stocked with your favourite snacks"), and one future promise (e.g., "I promise to grow old and grey with you").
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Write for the Ear, Not the Eye: Remember, you aren't writing an essay for a professor! Use short sentences. They are much easier to say when you’re feeling emotional and a little out of breath from the excitement.
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Keep a Secret: Don't show your partner your vows before the ceremony. The look on their face when they hear your words for the first time is a moment you’ll want to capture forever—it’s the ultimate "reveal," just like the dress!
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The Paper Matters: Please, I beg you, don't read your vows off a cracked iPhone screen! It ruins the photos. Write them in a beautiful little notebook or on a piece of high-quality cardstock that matches your wedding stationery.
A Little "Mad-Lib" to Get You Started
If the page is still blank, try filling this in:
"When I first met you at [Place], I never imagined we’d be standing here today. I love the way you [Trait/Action], and I am so proud to be your [Wife/Husband/Partner]. Today, in front of our favorite people, I promise to [Promise 1], [Promise 2], and always [Promise 3]. You are my [Favorite Title for Them], and I choose you today and every day."
A Little Inspiration...
If you’re stuck, just remember why you chose your dress. You chose it because it made you feel like the best version of yourself. Your vows should do the exact same thing.
Be bold, be brave, and most importantly, be in love.
Cheers to your happily ever after!
Love, Veni x